first things you can do to help a female loved one who has recently left an abusive situation is to help her feel safe."
Here are some techniques to carry out this vital strategy.
HELP HER FIND A SAFE PLACE TO LIVE
Your loved one may have limited means, so if possible, ask
friends and family to help so that she won't have to worry
about rent and other bills. It might be helpful to find an apartment that includes utilities with the rent so your loved one will be hard to track down online.
TAKE THE RIGHT PRECAUTIONS
Making sure your loved one's new home is as safe as possible is a big job, but it's necessary. There are many
simple things you can do including adding extra locks to windows and deadbolts to doors, moving large heavy planters in front of patio doors or ground floor windows,
installing motion-sensor lights at every entrance, and getting a guard dog. If there is some money investing in a home security system is a great idea, especially one already connected to 911.
SOCIAL MEDIA DO'S AND DON'TS
If your loved one has social media accounts, have her make them private or delete them altogether. She should tell her friends and close relatives not to tag her in any photos or check her in at any locations, and she should disable those
features on all accounts as well. She should also never accept a friend or follow a request from anyone she doesn't know.
GET SOME HELP
You and other friends may be loving shoulders to cry on, but that doesn't mean your loved one couldn't benefit from talking to a counselor or therapist about what she went through.
Let your loved one know she has nothing to feel ashamed of and that there are people waiting to help should she need to reach out.
If your loved one is having legal issues due to leaving the situation or needs advice on what steps to take, contact
NORA HOOD of www.Three Daily.org. That website can give you directions to reference materials from which this
blog post suggestions taken.